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Why Boycott Autism Speaks?

Why do we boycott?

This is a Civil Rights Movement.

Our intentions with the boycott are to bring the experiences of the REAL authority on Autism, Autistic people, as central to the conversation about Autism.

We seek for Autistic Voices to lead.

We seek to empower Autistic people by showing the world that Autistic lives are valuable, no matter the amount of support or interdependence is needed to live our lives.

We embrace the values of Neurodiversity, Disability Rights and Disability Justice.

We seek for the elimination of hateful and dehumanizing rhetoric when talking about our lives.

We acknowledge and honor the fact that Disability is a natural part of the human experience, just as the ADA stated almost 25 years ago. Disability is never shameful and we are proud of our identities as Disabled & Autistic!

We seek Acceptance, Inclusion, and Respect.

WE DO NOT SEEK A CURE. A cure is not only unlikely, as Autism is our neurological wiring and essential to who we are as human beings, but it also directly contradicts our stated goals.

We seek unity among all Autistics through the elimination of ridiculous, arbitrary and ableist functioning labels. We acknowledge that the use of those labels is something that groups like Autism Speaks use to silence us and discount us.

We boycott because we want a better future for Autistic people. The future we envision is fundamentally shaped by these ideals. We don’t just imagine a better world for Autistic people and our families, friends and loved ones, we are creating it.

The following joint letter explains why Autism Speaks is not an organization that ethical businesses should sponsor, fundraise for, or otherwise offer support. If Sponsors are interested in supporting Autistic people, we urge them to support one of the worthy organizations represented on this statement.

For more info on why Autism Speaks is not an organization you should support you can google “Why is Autism Speaks bad?” you can also find valuable information within the post linked below:

If you are looking for other organizations to support, we suggest these two:

Autism Women’s Network


BAS Statement about Autism Speaks Board Appointments


Recently, Autism Speaks announced the appointment of three new individuals to their Board of Directors. Two of these individuals, Valerie Paradiz and Stephen Shore, are Autistic adults. While bringing Autistic people onto the board is a step in the right direction the politics of the organization remain unchanged and therefore our opposition to it will not waver. Until they stop researching cure, and spreading fear and hatred of Autistic people they are still everything that we stand against.

BAS statement re: ASA

Original Post here.

Boycott Autism Speaks is extremely disappointed in the decision of the Autism Society of America to give a prominent platform to Caren Zucker & John Donvan authors of “In A Different Key” at their annual conference.

This book presents many falsehoods and inaccuracies about the neurodiversity & autistic rights movements and about prominent disability activists. The book even sympathizes with parents who commit filicide against their disabled children.

An organization that claims to work for the autistic community cannot condone or endorse such dangerous misinformation. An organization that claims to work for us cannot pretend that this is an attempt to promote “both sides” when one side is literally fighting for our own humanity and civil rights.

We at BAS want to reiterate that we are more than just a boycott of Autism Speaks. We are a civil rights movement. One cannot claim to stand with us in the boycott when they embrace the same ideas that we are fighting against. If an organization supports the same principles as Autism Speaks, they do just as much harm to our communities.

If you support BAS, you support the neurodiversity movement. You support Autistic rights, autistic self determination and authentic inclusion. We do not just boycott one organization, but the ideas behind it that have held us back and caused our communities so much harm.

For more information, please read Amy Sequenzia’s article on the PACLA blog:

If you are looking for organizations to support, look locally. Who is actually helping Autistic people in your area? Who is working to ensure that our rights and interests are centered? If there is no such organization, ask yourself what you can do to support Autistic people in your individual communities.

Boycott Autism Speaks officially supports these organizations:

Autism Women’s Network,
Tone it Down Taupe
Ed Wiley Autism Acceptance Lending Library.


Testimonial about JRC–which Autism Speaks Supports

  • About 12 years ago, fresh out of college, I moved from Arizona to Boston with my psychiatrist partner, who was accepted into fellowship at Cambridge Hospital. This time is so vivid in my memory as a person with autism because it was my first time living in a big city and it was 9/11. People were everywhere and jobs were scarce. I read about a job working with kids at The judge Rotenburg Center in Canton, Mass. As an abused child, it seemed like a natural fit for me.

    I arrived early for my interview and was seated in a cheerful waiting room, decorated In Disney theme. My interviewer called me and escorted me past a game room where some kids were playing very quietly.

    After a brief exchange about how kids earn the privilege of using the game room as a reward for good behavior, I was ushered into a classroom.

    I had already begun to feel uneasy when I saw children, some in wheelchairs hooked up to a battery pack. At some point I was asked, “Would you have a problem delivering an electrical shock to a child displaying behaviors not in their behavior plan?”

    I rarely lie, but I said I wouldn’t because I wanted to know more so I could notify my partner that this was going on. I vaguely remember something being said about isolation being used.

    I left horrified and confused. It’s one of the worst memories I carry with me and I feel dirty having been there.

Anonymous Testimonial

Imagine your worst days being put on display for the world to see, while being described as the destroyer of all hopes and dreams.  This is the nature of the message Autism Speaks spreads about my twin sister, Jessica.
Jessica is my other half.  She does not deserve to be spoken about this way.  She deserves the same respect as any other human being.
I am willing to bet the messengers on Autism Speaks would not want to be portrayed in this manner, why not affords the same courtesy to those you supposedly love?
The answer is simple-they do not love autistic personhood.  They do not speak for me, my sister or my family.

Why I don’t Support Autism Speaks

By Sandy Kinnamon

I thought it might be helpful to give some personal context as to why I don’t support Autism Speaks and am participating in efforts to boycott them.

My daughter was diagnosed as Autistic May 2012. I was scared and knew nothing about Autism, nothing positive; anyway, of the little I did know.

I was given Autism Speaks 100 days kit, which did have some helpful information. So, I decided to view their website, since I‘d heard of them, but knew nothing about them. As I began to look around their site, I became increasingly uncomfortable with what I was reading. What they were saying didn’t appear to describe my daughter at all. And it only further terrified me and I began to feel my despair deep. By the time I saw the video of called “Autism Everyday”, here ,where Judith Singer spoke of driving off a bridge with her Autistic child, but remembered she had a much more valuable, “normal” child to be there for, I was completely horrified and wondered if one day I would feel this way. If Autism was THAT bad?

It briefly led me to groups that weren’t at all helpful or accepting of their Autistic children and even more desperation and depression engulfed me as I tried to figure out how to save her from this cursed affliction.  But one day she looked into my eyes with so much love and affection and I snapped out of my haze and again SAW my child. This child I worked years through secondary infertility to get. And the more other Autistic children and adults I met, the more I knew these were dreaded lies, awful mischaracterizations of every person on the spectrum. These people were loving, affectionate, bright, intelligent, funny…challenges, to be sure, but in direct opposition to Suzanne Wright’s “Call to Action” here stating emphatically they are burdens, with families that aren’t living, but barely existing, they are lost, missing, diseased and gravely ill. None of the people I know are ANY of those things, including my daughter.   

You want to know the cost of this kind of misleading, manipulative rhetoric for dollars, of which only 4% is used to help actual families? Here is an account of a Mother, Author and blogger, Sharon (Mama’s Turn Now) whose 12 year old son Jay, happened to be reading over her shoulder as she was reading these despicable words.  I literally cried at the pain caused to this innocent child. No child should ever read how they are a destroyer of their family.  That price is TOO high!

I cannot support the silencing of Autistic voices by Autism Speaks. The bullying of a 14 year old Autistic girl, who dared to parody them, here.  How  absolutely disgusting is that? We must join together Autistic advocates and Parents to come up with real tangible ways, like mentorship programs, to help our loved ones. There is a better way than Autism Speaks. Our people deserve better.



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Why I’m Against Autism Speaks

Why am I anti Autism Speaks?
You are probably thinking  “Isn’t all the exposure they give to autism a GOOD thing?” Well no.. not the way they do it and not for the reasons they do it.
I often hear from many people that any awareness is good awareness, I’m sorry but that is WRONG. Autism Speaks does not promote awareness, acceptance or even better lives for people living on the autism spectrum. They promote pity and fear of autism so you will donate money to their organization. Autism Speaks refers to autism as a crisis and epidemic. They constantly and consistently talk about autistic people being burdens and diseases.
Autism Speaks talks about how autistic people cause broken homes, divorces and how autism families are not living.They claim people with autism are lost. They promote obliteration and extinction of a type of people with their research for a “cure”.
They refuse to listen to and include the voices of autistic people.
If you don’t believe any of what I have said, read the following article and don’t just stop at the article, read the comments that go along with it.
They often use inflated stats to scare parents into joining in on their fundraisers; fundraisers where only 3 to 4 cents on every dollar earned actually goes towards helping the community in the form of grants which are not as accessible as the organization makes it out to be.  The rest of the money they collect through fundraising and donations is used to pay cushy salaries and research for cause and cure.
Autism Speaks does not speak or even care for your child, my child, myself or my autistic friends. Autism Speaks wants to eradicate us. Autism speaks wants to use our situations to line their pockets and they want to do it without the voices of the people they claim to want to help.
Myself, my son and all autistic people DESERVE better representation. Autism Speaks should NOT have the monopoly on speaking out on what autistic people need… we damn well know what we need, let us speak for our self.
Nothing About Us Without Us!

Why I Hate Autism Speaks

Why I Hate Autism Speaks

By Melissa Fields

My personal views on an organization that never helped me when i reached out to them in early 2008. I didn’t know better and felt i could turn to them. I had written a blog about my experiences as an Autistic adult early that year, to see if they would help me to find friends, because i just needed some friends who would get me, and accept me, friends that i could hang out with and do things with, and i needed support in my endeavor to try to move from the neighborhood i live in, because i am, to this very day, being bullied by several employees of a few of the nearby auto businesses that are to the East and across from my house.. Litle did i know back then, the scope of Autism Speaks’ negative, hateful, and very hurtful attitudes towards those of us who are Autistic. Back in 2008, i was still trying to better understand myself, and just wanted to try to find support. They published my blog, alright, but they never reached out to me to give me the help i was asking for. Then i came to Facebook and found all of my awesome Autistic friends, and parents of Autistic children who have all accepted me. Now i do have friends via Facebook who get me. But i still have very few local friends. And i am so very lonely because of that. And from Autism Speaks, i never got a darn thing. And then i began to read about them and see their videos which portray Autism and Autistic kids in a shockingly horrific light….not just negative, but it’s like they really have a deep-seated hate for us……not only do they fund harmful research and biomedical and therapy/behavioral treatments that are also harmful, but they devote little time or money to actually helping us to be able to have real time supports that will help us to be able to live a decent life as Autistics. Instead, they want to cure us, fix us, and eradicate us….you know, the whole “Children should be seen, not heard” mentality? Insert Autistic children and adults. Yes, it seems to me that they want to erase and even murder us.


And then when they go to Washington DC and have conferences, without inviting us Autistics, and they continually won’t let us speak… have an organizatio that, in my strong opinion, does NOT truly represent the Autistic community.


And then you have them saying that we are a crisis and a burden. That we are dumb, and even the R word.


They say that we will never have normal lives. That we will ruin the lives of our families. They seem to think it’s a bad thing for us to be Autistic. That is all they want to think about…….and they still won’t listen to US, the very ones they perport to represent.


Just my take.


And i, for one, feel that they need to be stopped from spreading their hateful campaign of fear, gloom and doom.


We are human beings, not blue puzzle pieces. We are alive. Very much alive. And we have ears that hear this hate.


It needs to stop.

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To The Corporate Supporters of Autism Speaks, by Amy Sequenzia

Written by Amy Sequenzia For Autism Women’s Network.

To The Corporate Supporters of Autism Speaks, by Amy Sequenzia

I am convinced you donate money to this organization because you believe you are helping autistic people and their families.

You have been lied to. Only 4% of your contribution goes to services for the autistic community.

Most of that money goes to research on causation, which will inevitably lead to methods for preventing the birth of people like me. This is eugenics. This is hate.

Autism Speaks tells you that we are an epidemic, that we cost too much to society, but they don’t mention that many of us work, raise families, go to college. We are everywhere. We are your friends, neighbors, co-workers. When we ask to be heard, they say: “You are not really autistic. You are too ‘high functioning’”.

I, on the other hand, am what Autism Speaks calls “low functioning”, tragedy, burden, severe; they say my family suffers because of me, that they barely exist and that I am destroying their lives.

None of this is true but they don’t listen to me either since I am the proof that they lie.

I am non-speaking, I cannot dress myself, I need help eating and I need help going to the bathroom. I have seizures, which are not autism, but I am not safe alone.

There are many others who are a lot like me. We are in colleges, we are artists and writers, we make movies and give lectures. We still need supports but, when we get the supports, we excel. Just like everyone else.

Because of us, a new generation of autistics is growing up with dreams and aspirations, and they can succeed, just like we, adults, did. Those young autistics will not accept to be called “burden” and “tragedies” anymore. They are speaking up too.

That is why we ask you to stop supporting Autism Speaks. Autism Speaks say that we aren’t fully human, they refuse to listen to us, they traumatize young kids by saying they are not what their parents wanted. They support electric shocks as “treatment” for autistic people at the Judge Rotenberg Center. And they misrepresent families that love their children, families that need supports but do not think their children should not exist or that they burdens.

You can do better. You can actually support us, autistics, and our families. Please, consider the organizations listed bellow as recipients of your donations. We know you want to do the best to help us and we know you don’t want your name associated with a hateful organization.

• The Autistic Self Advocacy Network (
• Autism Women’s Network (
• Ollibean (
• TASH (
• The Thinking Person’s Guide to Autism (
• Dan Marino Foundation (
• Autism National Committee (
• Autism Network International (
• Autism Society (
• National Council on Independent Living (

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Why I support the Boycott

Nicole Nicholson shared a link to her poems and has written this.

I am an autistic adult, diagnosed at age 34 with Asperger Syndrome.I support the boycott of Autism Speaks because they have made it harder to promote understanding and acceptance of autism with their lies and pity-based advertising/fundraising.

I consider myself fortunate. I have been surrounded by very open-minded and educated people since I “came out” as autistic, and I have felt free to explore Asperger’s through my poetry and prose. However, I know there are others who do not feel safe being “out” as autistic in life or on the job partially because of the harmful views of autism that A$ has crafted and promoted.

I choose to be openly autistic to help promote understanding and acceptance of autism. It offends and hurts me that this organization, on top of painting autistic people as freaks/financial drains/objects of pity/what have you, also promotes curing autism. Unfortunately, this line of thinking is laced with eugenics and can lead to dangerous outcomes  — because in order to wipe out autism, one must wipe out autistic people. It is impossible to separate the brain wiring from the person — it is part of who we are.

I certainly don’t doubt that autism is not always a walk in the park. I call to mind a quote from Sharisa Joy Kochmeister: “Autism is a gift, disguised as a dilemma.” But autism has brought many gifts to me, including poetry — and I think my Asperger’s contributes to my ability to translate images into words. I would not trade any of it — even my sensory and social difficulties — for a “cure”.

Autism Speaks does very well speaking for itself, but it does not speak for me, my fiance, or anyone else I care about who is autistic. Organizations that support them will not be getting our money until they choose to support causes that actually support autistic people.


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